I notice how very often I am asking people to restate things, or saying "Wait, I'm confused" or "Hold on, I am not following." I mean, it's kind of hard to miss. It's happening with a frequency that can't be ignored.
A little bit ago I was having a post-holiday lets-celebrate-that-we-live-in-the-same-time-zone chat with Ashli, and I said something offhanded like, "I'm sure I'm going to be bad at everything. I hate being bad at things." And she said, "Kate, that is not true. I think you like being bad at things, because you like learning."
We should not be too quick to dismiss confusion or try to resolve it or spackle over it. I would even argue we need to consider it a badge of honor and an activity worthy of our time, consideration, and cultivation. The only way to cultivate curiosity is to cultivate an environment that is supportive of wallowing — active engagement and presence in the process of being confused.
It's okay to be bad at something. (Josh Giesbrecht )
It’s not just that we tell kids, “You can’t do this.” It’s that we tell them, “If you can’t do this now, then you can’t do this ever.”
I'm not missing class yet, but, oh, your basic freak out over that, it's coming. I am really grateful this exists.
It melted my heart. It was so genuine. It was exactly what I needed to hear at that moment. And it came from the mouth of a seventeen-year-old. (Rebecka Peterson)But I can't deny, I am enjoying all the day-to-day differentness of not being a teacher. You know, not having to drop everything because a bell rang. That sort of thing. And that I get to work with my friends, who are not just breathtakingly smart, and have really good hearts, but are also fun to be around.
|Sandol Stoddard Warburg|
So let's all take a moment and appreciate all that being bad at something has to offer. Your assignment for this week is to notice a moment when you are confused, or you don't get something, and not try to hide it. Especially if you are around young humans. At a minimum say, "I am confused!" At a maximum, be really, flamboyantly bad at it, and celebrate how you found a problem worthy of you.